its a hokkien term basically..its literal translation means to know how to be a person. means like to have manners lah..it pisses me off when people i know boey hiao cho lang (opposite meaning of title) cos see, manners is like, a two way street. which should be fundamental knowledge to the non-brain dead. unfortunately, this is not the case.
i find that the nicer i am to people, the more they take advantage..what the hell is up with that? then when i lose temper all, become miss bitch extrodinaire, things get done.
take for example, during the weekend. i'm all excited, cos during the week, i'm getting da new furniture in, to make da ol' house look like a home..kesian lah my poor friends who come and then have to sit on turquoise couch and boardroom chairs (also turquoise by the way)..so anyway, ikea movers came. they had to set up 3 cupboards. before they set up the cupboards, i told them to please let me know when they put in the sheives so i could supervise and tell them the right height (cos it doesnt make much sense for shelves to be too high and then cannot reach right anot??). nope. the idiots hammered in the shelves anyway. see, that pisses me off. cos i wasted precious moments of my time; they took me away from my favourite cartoon (foster's home for imaginary friends..oooh its soo good!), to brief them. so ok never mind, i told them lah that they hammered it in wrong so could they please adjust it to the correct height? and then the dude had to start with his nonsense "the display unit looks like that so YOUR cupboard should also look like that"..we shall not go into details but suffice to say, my cupboards are now allright.
example 2: security guards are meant to take care of our security. correct? ok , i tell you another story. my condo has changed security guard companies about 3 times now..i've only lived there barely a year. so everytime the change comes into play, the new guards have to like, show that they're doing their job lah..purposely more diligent in checking i.d, sticker,etc-etc..that's great. until 5 different guards start ringing my damn doorbell every hour (at ungodly hours like 2am and 7am). know why?cos they wanna catch me with my bra off..yah, its damn nonsense..and the girls arent even that big!sure, they give excuses like "oh,tengah buat apa?", and "kenapa tak lock grill?" (this is 10 minutes after i stepped into the house with about 7 grocery/ikea bags in tow)
so i gave it nicely to the unlucky asshole who came ringing yesterday at 2.53pm. he was the idiot inquiring about the unlocked gate. A) if you care so much about my safety, then your job is to keep unwanted people OUT of the damn building in the first place and NOT let them get all the way up to my 20-something floor! B) there are over 200 units in the damn building and you gotta ring MY bell 2000 times a day? C) fuckers.
example 3:i despise laziness. especially at work. i try to be nice and fair to everyone i work with; clients,suppliers, colleagues. i really do. because i dont like to nag and chase and pressure. because i believe people should have pride in their work. because i believe there should be an iota of common courtesy; to have a feeling of urgency and respect between the two parties. unfortunately, once again, that is taken advantage of and there are many who mistake the niceness for weakness..so out comes the bitch.
p/s- plucking coconuts really doesnt seem like such a bad idea right now..
eh darling, if you read this, sorry i meesed karaoke!!soon, soonn kay?